As the days grow shorter and darkness wraps itself around our evenings, this time of year can feel heavy for many. The dim light and colder air often mirror an inward pull, drawing us into reflection—or sometimes restlessness. Yet, in this physical darkness lies an invitation to discover the profound power of focus, particularly on what many might overlook: the glimmers of joy, gratitude, and meaning that illuminate our lives in surprising ways.

Perhaps you are going through an upheaval in your life?

What do we to do with this season of festivities, that emphasize thanksgiving and gratitude when we are carrying a bucket full of pain?

Secondary wounding is the term for the pain we experience when we do not find the support we need after a traumatic event. This kind of wounding may actually be psychologically more isolating and painful than the initial loss.

In our 21st century culture, we have designed lives that are surrounded by conveniences and comforts. Challenging emotions are neither comfortable or convenient.

What do we do when life hands us confusion, suffering, loss or betrayal?

What do we do with Thanksgiving if we are in the thick of deep pain?

What if growing into the new version of ourselves, a metamorphosis of sorts, requires that we find a way to hold both pain and gratitude at the same time?